Mommy Forum Post of the Week

While searching for content, content, content,  I stumbled upon this post over in the babycenter forums.  It is really long.  Here is a break from your regularly scheduled programming.  I present it without additional comment.  Enjoy.

Hello, and Happy Monday to everyone.
I know BHB is a fast pace board group, especially in the morning/afternoon time; my thread will get burried way in the back, which is okay.. And my post is always long-winded like always please feel more than free to click X ‘exit’ if you don’t want to read it.
May I ask, any ladies here with September birthday DH? What did you do/bought for your DH’s b-day?
Sept. birthday DH (dear husband) or not.. If it okay, can you share what did you do/bought for your DH’s birthday?
Beside the obvious, you know sex.. (I’m not looking for sex advice or tips). What did you get for your DH (dear husband) as birthday’s gifts? Did you plan anything? How did you spend the day of your DH’s birthday with your DH?
If you don’t mind sharing, so I can get ideas and learn more from you.. I kindda need gift ideas.
I feel terrible because I still don’t know what to get for my husband birthday.. His birthday is today (he born September 26, 1985); and I still don’t know what to get for his b-day gift. He just hard to buy gifts for, he has everything.

He doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, not even a cigarette.
He’s quite sensitive when it come to the drunk/alcoholic topic, because he lost an immediate family member in a car crash accident caused by a drunk driver.. He hates those who drink and drive. He hates drunk drivers; no way he will let any alcohol in his bloodstream.
When he out with his childhood friend–they drink, but that is them. He doesn’t drink; and when he said No, it a No.
So alcohol on his birthday is a No.

He doesn’t have much hobies..
He doesn’t like to play video games, he have zero interest in video games. I never saw him play it, it just not his thing.. He said the hours that use play video games, he can use those hours to work and get pay instead.
He didn’t grow up with video games; growing up he never care enough to play.
He did buy the Mario Nintendo Wii for his niece and nephew–they wanted the Wii, so he bought it for them. He does dotes on his niece and nephew.
I dunno, maybe I could buy more Wii games for his niece and nephew so he can give it to them?

His hobbies/his ways of relax is watch News, read newspaper, watch NFL Football and go to the gym.
He loves watch News and NFL Football, that’s the only two things he watch on TV, Lol.. I always encourage him go to his childhood friends place to watch it. He will have more fun watch it with them, because I don’t know anything about NFL Football.
He 6’1″ and weight 170 lbs, which is an average weight for his height; but he slim and very lean. He have zero body fat.. He always this slim/skinny since the first day I met him. He have fast metabolism.
But then he likes to go to the gym to work out.. He said he likes to be slim, so I guess he go to the gym to keep his body stay fit and in shape.
Maybe I should pay for his Gym membership? But he already paid.

He also likes guns, the both outdoor and indoor shooting ranges.. But the last time he went to shooting ranges was a long time ago. He work long hours (12 hours a day on weekdays).

He loves to read newspapes and books. But he only like two type of books, that is ‘war” books sand ‘politics” books.. He have alot of books already.
I did get him a “war” book for his b-day once, but he pretty much have all the books that he likes.

He drinks coffee, but not often’; two times a week at most.
Usually on weekend he have half a day off, he drink black coffee while reading the newspapers; that his ways of relax and recharge.. He loves watch News and read print newspaper.
He Only drink plain black coffee. No sugar, no milk, no cream, no flavoring, no nothing in it; just plain black coffee.. Maybe I should buy more of his favorite coffee beans? But we have alot at home already.

He not an online person.. He doesn’t like go to online. He have zero social media pages.
He never go online, unless he needs the internet for something related to his jobs. He never do eBanking. He never have Facebook, he never use any social media.
All communications are through his phone, and he rarely rarely text.. He prefers talking voice to voice over the phone like the old days..
He doesn’t text or call just for fun.. He will call when there something he needs to communicate with that person. And If that person is busy and doesn’t pick up the phone, he will leave a few words text or a brief voice mail. He won’t send further text, he doesn’t engage in text back and forth.
His family, and his childhood friends all know this is how he is. So they all call and talk voice to voice with him.
He already have a phone that he likes, he only use it to make calls/received calls.. No, he doesn’t glue his eyes to the phone. No, he doesn’t play on the phone.
And he already have a laptop that he seldom use, unless he needs it to do something related to his jobs.
I don’t think he needs another laptop or phone.

Clothes? (He is a Street smart guy), he just have his own ‘style’ of clothes. So I don’t go shopping for his clothes, maybe just a jacket.
He not the ‘Book smart’ guy, he not the suit & tie type of guy. And he never wear suit & tied.. He just have his own clothing style. It hard to buy clothes for him.
He have a black van, and a motorcycle. Which both he bought and pay off, before he even met me.
He had a car but he then he got a family van; due to he helps his older sister take his niece and nephew to school or to places.. And his nephew loves to ride on the back of his motorcycle.
I don’t think he need another van or motorcycle–he had these prior met me. (I met him when he was 25).
And I don’t have enough money to buy him a car anyways, lol.. my job is minium wage, he make alot more than me. (Annual salary income of his jobs–hourly wage average out to $40 an hour. So that 4x more every hours he work compared to me–a girl who a $10 an hour minimum wage job).


On Saturday morning, I did make him Chinese Baozi–steamed bun; he loves loves to eat these.. Baozi–it a round shape bun inside/filling have meat in it.
I want him to have it to eat on the weekend, since his birthday is coming up on Monday.. Chinese we eat Baozi steamed bun on our bithday.
I do cook Chinese food for him everyday.. So cook him his b-day meal is like cooking for him everyday, I want do something more than just cook for him.

I don’t know how to help him on his job.
He drives a giant fuel tanker truck like this pic below, he hauls gasoline an fuel liquid. Hauling 10,000 gallons of highly flammable gasoline/fuel, delivered 5-6 loads per day. He work long hours, (he work 12 hours a day).


No, a 4’11” short height girl like me don’t know how to haul each load contain 10,000 gallons of gasoline/fuel, doing 5-6 loads a day like him.. A girl like me don’t know how to load/unload tanker truck and trailer; or handle hook/unhook hoses. Or operate pumsps and valves loading/unloading; or lift 100 lbs. Or climb on ladders and walk on top the tanker truck like him.

We live in a crowded population state where daily the freeway is always packed, and there accidents on the freeway everyday. I do get worry about his safety when he on the road.
He have a perfectly clean driving records, and he is a very balance and smooth driver. He very calm, very level heade. And he is a ridiculously patience person, he ridiculously patience in everything.. It nearly impossible to tip his balance scales.
But I still get worried–due to his job nature.. Hauling 10,000 gallons of highly flammable gasoline is not something that most people want to do. But he do it; he gotta do what he gotta do for survival right?
On rainy days, I do drop by on his break to bring him food.
He home everyday, but he work long hours. And when I miss him too much, lol.. sometimes I drop by real quick to give him food, lol

I just cook him something; I’m leaving in an hour  (his lunch time/break time)–I’m going to drop by on his break to bring him food. Today is his birthday.
And I did tell him after his work today we go eat out.. It not that I don’t want to cook Chinese food for him; it that it his birthday, so I want him to eat out in a restaurant (a nice b-day’s dinner meal).
We live right in the city, so there there alot of places around to go; restaurants, bars, parks, lakes, theaters, concerts entertainment, cultural arts, marketplace, etc..
Finding a place to go it not the problem; it just that his birthday is today–and I still don’t know what to get for his b-day gift.

As you can see, he just hard to buy gifts for.. Yesterday I did go to the mall do last minute shopping, and still don’t know what to buy for him. He has everything.
I want to get him something. Heck, even if I buy the gift late; let it be a belated-birthday gift.
Can anyone here share what did you get for your DH (dear husband) birthday? How did you spend the day of your DH’s birthday with your DH?
If you don’t mind sharing, it would help me alot with get ideas.. I still need birthday gift ideas, and I can use your ideas to help buy his Christmas gift too. Thank you so much.
Hope everyone here had a nice weekend with your family, and hope everyone is having a nice week.

I know in the HCOL state California; have a DH (dear husband) that work long hours it very common–here every household there got to be one person who work their butt off just so their wife and kids can have a comfy life.. But damn it, sometimes I wish we can move the hell out of California.
Everything here is freaking expensive; even grocery here is freaking expensive, let alone rent or mortgage.. California is the reason why my husband has to work long hours, just so I can live a comfy life without have to worried about financial.
He worries and secure everything from emotionally to financially; everything I have right now is he gives me. Because of him I get to live stable steady and comfy life.. I wish I can do more for him. I feel terrible that I’m his wife and can’t even find a birthday gift or Christmas gift for him. 😦

Posters who unlucky enough to read through my background threads and follow my posting history–(since 2014 to now it Sept 2016), it been 2 years already. What I say in this threa it nothing new. Am I disecting him into milion pieces trying to find something wrong with him again? He just ‘not very normal’ right?
ugh.. Am I putting too much emphasis on getting the ‘perfect’ gift for him? Am I being too critical of myself again?

He never asked me to buy him any gift for his birthday.. But I want to get him something for his birthday–one gift.
Please help give me gift ideas. I feel terrible that I’m a wife and I can’t even find a birthday gift or Christmas gift for my husband. 😦

eta: answer PP (previous poster) question. I’m in Oakland, Northern California.
The Bay area (San Francisco, Oakland, San Jose).. And Oakland is the cheapest to live in, out of that three.
and ugh.. and the Cost of living in Northern California is More than/Higher than Southern California.
And why do Oakland, California have to be in ‘the Bay area’ region–why why? arg!
How Much Does It Cost to Live Comfortably in the Bay Area? link:…

Awesome FriendLurkerLife of the Party

If need live translation, I be more than happy to help. Chinese here & here. Vietnamese here.

LONG& TMI(Regard something my DH did 10 years ago); just so hard for me to understand


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s